abang or adik

i get confused calling asyraf at times. i'm so used to calling him adik when around amir. amir's been calling him adik as well. now with ariff around, we call him abang. but i get confused all the time. usually adik comes out when asyraf's gotten himself into mischief or is all sad and pouty. abang is used when i'm angry at him for something he's done. (having said that - i really hate the term adik to be used, actually)


a lot of people warned us about the middle child syndrome. i personally believe asyraf may be able to avoid this as he has a very strong personality and has a way of making people remember him. helping asyraf to overcome that, i try to get him involved with both his brothers. amir has a certain bond he develops by himself with both brothers. with asyraf, he loves playing and eating together (which is why i stressed on not separating them when they went to daycare) and with ariff, he's always singing him to sleep and giving him his bottle.


asyraf hasnt had the opportunity to bond with ariff just yet. he would watch from afar and smile...and smack when he's nearby. i cant even get them to lie next to each other long enough to take a photo. oh well...there's still time...